HELLO MY LOVE :) , I hope you feel amazing, are healthy and totally happy <3
Today, I wanna talk about how I suffered from my small breast during my teenage years and how sick I was, because of all the mean comments I received in school and the pressure, societies beauty standards puts on everyone thesedays from a very young age on. I also directly want to consider, that it might sound weird to you, how I can be so much for natural bodies, faces and characters while having done a beauty surgery on my own. I just hope that you won´t judge my decision as soon as you know the closer background. If I would had the mindset, which I am having right now, back then, I am not quite sure, if I would have made the same decision. But also today, I can honestly say, I feel good in my skin and I don´t regret it, BUT to me, natural bodies are and will be forever the most beautiful one´s even though I can truly understand the deep desire, which many of us might feel, to change THAT ONE THING that causes us so many years of depression, low self esteem and tears.
Anyway, back to the comment list:
"Look at her, no ass no titties, what a shame!"
"It seems like god forgot to give you boobs while he created you!"
"You look like a platfish!"
"Urgh, you are so unattractive, no man will ever find you sexy!"
"Wait, how many push-up bras are your wearing?"
"You seriously have NO boobs at all. You look like a man!"
"Here, you should better put some socks into your bra to kinda fill it out!"
"Sorry, but why are you wearing a bra at all?"
... and so on. Today, I am not thinking about these comments that much anymore, but you know it yourself, we do not forget what people once told us. We just learn to live with it and let it go to find our inner happiness. Back in school, it was a nightmare. As you already know, I had anorexia for two years directy at the beginning of puberty. So it was just logical that my breast was not growing that much, because I was not eating enough at all. Bullying at school, college or work is very popular. We all know people who did it and victims who suffered from it and if we are honest to ourselves, every one probably said somethings in their lives already which has not been very nice in relation to other people. Bullying itself is a huge problem, especially for the ones, who have no chance to do anything against it. Sometimes it feels like, the victim is just a random person, some people choose to bully, because they are bored. And once "they" chose their victim, it is powerless. I got bullied in school, too and that is a reason why I want to work and create transparency to reduce the power bullying has on the victims and and for the offender. I have the vision that it can be possible to include 2 or 3 more, but globally equal classes in school, which might be:
1. The right social and personal values to create realistic and healthy norms
2. The importance of inclusion, respect and acceptance of everyone
3. Financial education to reduce personal and global poverty
4. Mental health, the importance of real foods and an active live to prevent all types of illness
5. Earth protection: Oceans, forests, lakes, deserts, land and air.
The reson why I believe that everything belongs together, that life is a cyrcle with ups and downs and that so many things are important to live life to it´s fullest is, because nothing is possible without the balance between at least two things. So when I started to think about how I can make a positive impact and what will all come along with my mission of really changing this world, I realized that life is more like a huge rack-weel, which means I had to go deeper into the whole circle.
If I take myself as an exemple and remember how it all started then I know that it was because of ONE COMMENT.
"Jenni, your belly is bigger than your best friends one". This turned into anorexia, anorexia produced the mean comments and my undeveloped breast, that turned into depression, self hate and bulimia. Then it turned into sports addiction, food restriction, deeper depression, a burn-out, low carb diet, low fat diet, breast surgery, fake nails, hairs, lashes, tan, different sports addiction, anxciety, another diet, no confidence at all, hiding, binge eating, desozialisation, feeling uncomfortable, being insecure, freaking out until......
! BREAKING FREE ! BREATHING IN ! CRYING TONS OF TEARS ! LEARNING TO LOVE AGAIN ! LEARNING TO LET GO ! FINDING INNER PEACE AND HAPPINESS ! SETTING HEALTHY GOALS ! LISTENING TO MY BODY ! TAKING CARE OF MYSELF ! DOING WHAT I WANT ! CREATING A MENTAL PROTECTION AGAINST HATERS ! BEING PROUD OF THE WOMAN I BECAME !
..and finally being honest to myself and able to keep my voice up for the things I believe in are important, because I really want to stop all these negative, toxic and unhealthy things thousands of people suffer their whole lifes from instead of enjoying every single moment they have. TIME IS LIMITED. We should use it for the good things, for the things that truly matter and count.
I love you all so much and honestly, I never thought I would ever share the before-picture. NO ONE ever saw it. I just took it for myself on September the 5th 2017. Not even my clostest friends or family have seen it, so ashamed felt I for myself my whole life. I don´t want this anymore.
I hope I can give you courage, selflove, confidence, motivation and so much happiness darling, BECAUSE YOU DESERVE IT and every minute you have negative thoughts is a waiste of time.
Take care and enjoy your weekend as much as you can, because there will never be a 18-20.09.2020 weekend again. :)
Love, love, love and even mooooore love!!!
Jen <3